i wanted to blog abt this a few days ago but didnt have the time. but after today, i felt even more about this.


even as we go through life, discovering new things, new places, new grounds. we do discover lots of traits and things about ourselves too. and even as we take the time to discover ourselves, i always thought that it takes a lifetime to find out about yourself. i guess cos things are always changing, thus we do change too. and different circumstances, you'll find different sides of yourself coming out.

if you realise, all of us have got so many sides in each of us, the 101 different tingtings living in one tingting. some really amazing, some really cool, some really funny, some just crappy, some trashy, some just plain unbelievable in the bad way. and all these different sides live in the same body and same person.

and, it takes us to accept and love ourselves in every single 'tingting' and side. people grow in love and acceptance, not condemnation. i believe the same applies to ourselves too. it is easy to love ourselves when we are just really good and amazing, but do you still love yourself when you are down and out and the terrible side shows?

i feel that sometimes we are just too hard on ourselves. our imperfections, our weaknesses. we refuse to accept ourselves in that way, cos we dont want to be that way. and maybe, it will in turn lead to self-condemnation, self-blame, self-inflicted pain.

sometimes, the most amazing thing to do is to give it space. give yourself space. to be who you are. even the most imperfect side of yourself. just let it be. acknowledge that you do have such a side in you, knowing is already the first step. then give it space, to grow. even as you learn to let go, to not be so harsh on yourself, you will start to realise those imperfections do have a chance to go away.

who says you cant be imperfect? who says you must always lie and be another you, when you are actually like that?

just be yourself, discover the 101 different sides in you. when you find an imperfect one, dont panic, dont be too harsh, dont be too quick to blame yourself and judge. just let that side of you be.




space. breathing space.
and patience and understanding will flow.